Please note: This post does discuss sex and masturbation. For the purposes of this article, I will be using the word sex for both “unisex” (aka masturbation) and sex with one or multiple partners. So depending on whichever you intend to do- swap in whichever word works best for you. As with all sexual acts- please use your own discretion and keep safety in mind. Do not engage in sexual acts without your partner’s consent.
I love using sexy sexy fun time in my magix because sex brings forth a lot of energy and juju with (for me) minimal effort and fuss. However, it seems that a lot of people don’t know about this awesome form of magix, and most of the posts and articles I read on sex magix just… don’t sit well with me. So hopefully this post will help get your mind going with some ideas on how you could utilize sex magix in your own practice.
Sex magix can be done solo (aka masturbation), with one or more physical partners, or with one or more astral/non-physical partners. Don’t let your current situation hold you back from experimenting. Sex magix works well solo and with friends.
The whole premise of the use of sex magix is very simple. Almost every form of sex magix will follow along the following lines of process:
- Decide what it is you want to do (consecrate an item, form wards, raise energy to be put into an object or person, etc).
- Determine if this will be done solo or with partner/s- if with other people, ask for consent and make sure that they are okay with it.
- Determine where and how you’d like to go about it. Pick your location, set it up in a way that is pleasing for you and your partner/s.
- Go to town, focusing on the task at hand.
- At the very end as everyone is feeling their release, drive and focus the energy were it needs to do.
- Bask in the afterglow.
Very very simple, yet very flexible and effective for many many things.
Because there are so many layers to sex magix, I’m going to break this down into a few categories:
- Sex and physical vs. non-physical partners (and combining both)
- Using toys
- Using what you’ve got: fluids and body parts
- Applying the concepts with a few examples
Please be aware that this guide is only a drop in the bucket for possibilities. If anything, this guide is here to serve as a primer to get your wheels turning. There are countless other ways that sex magix can be applied.
Sex and Partners
Partners (or lack thereof) is very important when doing sex magix. You need to make sure that the people you are sexing it up with are okay with using any sort of magix while getting it on, and you want to ensure that you’re comfortable with whomever you’re working with.
Sex with physical partners is pretty straight forward- I don’t think I have to explain much there (other than an emphasis on consent). But working with non-physical partners such as deities or astral entities can be a little tricky. Sex with non-physical partners can vary from person to person. Some people experience their partners as though they are here in the physical realms- when sex gets going on the non-physical side, they find that their physical body reacts exactly as it would to a physical partner being there. However, this isn’t the case for everyone- and that’s okay.
When you first start out with any sort of sexual venture with non-physical partners, remember that the same rules apply as physical relationships. Make sure that they aren’t moving too quickly for you and that you’re okay with whatever is going on. For myself personally, sex with a non-physical partner is enhanced by physical stimulation out here. So it’s not entirely uncommon for me to have a combination of physical and non-physical partners, or to be masturbating on one end, and having sex with a partner of mine (or multiple partners) on the other end. The more you experiment with this, the easier it’ll get to figure out what works best for you.
What delineates who I use as a partner/s for my sex magix depends partially on the intent of the work. If I’m trying to raise energy for a person in particular- I will usually try to get it on with them directly (where applicable) because it is essentially for them. If my workings have nothing to do with my non-physical partners, but are entirely centered around my physical life, I will opt to ask my physical partner for assistance over my non-physical partners. Other things to consider will be connection- if you need something with a lot of OOMPH, you’ll likely want to pick partners that you have particularly strong experiences and connection with, etc.
Toys, garments and other accessories can be helpful with sex magix. They can help to make your magix more potent or they can help to get you into the right mindset when getting started. When choosing toys, pick things that you or your partner/s will like and be sure to be aware of your comfort levels when choosing items.
Sigil in a safe location on a bullet vibrator
You can easily dedicate a certain toy or item to sex magix use in a similar fashion to how you might create an amulet or talisman. You can easily write sigils or protective/charged symbols on your items and/or anoint them with special oils of your choosing. However, be aware that many oils and markers don’t work well with your sensitive bits- so if you’re going to mark up a vibrator (for instance) make sure to only write on areas that will be safe to touch and won’t degrade the materials of the toy.
If you’re concerned about your item being safe for your skin, perhaps consider charging up a bottle of your favorite lube and using that to anoint your toy before use. That way, you’re only putting skin safe items into your more sensitive places.
An example of sigils on lubes.
You can also choose to keep your sex magix items in a protective box or bag– this way, your items will soak up all of your magix juju just be being stored away in their special place.
This concept doesn’t have to stop with toys or garments either. You could very easily charge up the sheets you do your sex magix on, or even the bed posts of your bed. There are lots of possibilities here.
Using What You’ve Got: Fluids and Body Parts
While I know this might not be for everyone, one of my favorite uses of sex magix is sealing and charging items. For me, this is primarily done through the use of fluids that come from the act of sex. Don’t discount the possible uses of fluids in your practice- you can easily use them to charge items that are tied to you and the partner/s that are performing the sexual acts. Fluids can be used to mark items as yours or can be used to consecrate an item that might symbolize the relationship btwn you and your deity (if that is the type of relationship that you have). I have also found that sexual fluids are good for warding and protection items as well. Just be aware of whether other people could be touching an item that you’ve literally marked up with body fluids- that might not be welcome in some households.
Additionally, you can easily utilize sigils and body art as a means to charge up your sex magix. Drawing a sigil on your hand before masturbating might give your sex magix an extra desired push. You can also cleanse your hands, or dip them into a special charged mixture or lotion in order to give your sex magix more direction.
You can also use your hands to charge up an item by holding onto the item during the act. If your hands are not available, you could wear the item on your person (such as a necklace) or leave it close to where you’re having sex (such as a night stand or under your pillow, etc) to allow it to soak up the juju that is created from the act.
Some Examples and Applications of Sex Magix:
From here I will discuss some basic applications of sex magix, or go through some of the basic motions of using sex magix. As stated above, this is in no way a complete list- just a few ideas to get you started.
Using Sex as an Offering
Sexual energies can easily be offered up to a deity (or other non-physical entity) and some of you may already have this occurring with or without your knowledge. You’ll likely know if this is occurring by whether you’ve got a voyeur type deity who loves to hang around during your sexy fun times and watches (or participates). If you wanted to make this happen on purpose- you could very easily let your deity know before you get started and welcome them into the space and allow them to soak up the energies that are raised during the process. Additionally, you could set aside a certain item that you will use only when you want to invite the deity or entity into your space for sexy fun times.
So, using a Kemetic ritual as an example, you might call the deity into the space, light the incense or candles (if you do so) and give them their offerings. In between leaving out offerings and reverting them- you could “perform” your sexual part of the rite, and after you’re done, revert any offerings you’ve given back, and close up your ritual space. If you were going to us a more Wiccan ritual structure, you might want to call your quarters and set up your circle. Ask in or summon your entities of choice, set out offerings, perform your sex, and then thank your deities and release the space. Obviously, you don’t have to be this formal if you don’t wish to be. I’ve often found that, like children, gods know when sex is occurring and they’ll just show up on their own and soak up the energy as it is being raised.
Conversely, if you don’t want non-physical entities watching while you get it on- warding yourself or your room up before you get started should help with this problem.
I’m sure some will ask why a god might want sexual energy dedicated to them, and I can’t entirely explain why they would. I only know that some gods seem to enjoy it as an offering and there seems to be an awful lot of gods who love to watch. So regardless of the reasons behind it- that would be the method I would use to go about making it happen.
Using Sex to Ward up a Location
I love using sex to charge up wards. There is very little else that can really mark a spot as ‘yours’ as much as sexual juju. And there is usually so much energy that gets raised during the process of sex- it makes for a great mixture. However, depending on your situation, I would opt to use this method for warding up a room, as opposed to an entire house. When using sex to ward, I’d urge you to be careful as to which rooms you’re spilling such energy into- be sure that the people who will be using the rooms you’re warding in this method are going to be okay with those types of energies floating around them (if they are sensitive to such things).
I’ve found that sexual activity, especially when you set out with the intent to ward, tends to fill a room and the process of warding sort of happens automatically. As the release occurs, the energy fills the room, and if you’re even remotely thinking about it protecting you- its going to. However, if you wish to make this more potent, I recommend trying to direct the energy during and/or afterwards- either through movement, intent, or possibly by touching the structure of the room itself (walls, floor) during the peak of your activities will get the job done.
Warding is highly personal, so I recommend experimenting with things to see what works best for you.
Using Sex to Heal
This is a technique that I use mostly on the astral, though I imagine if you’re good with manipulating energy here in the physical, or possibly had reiki training- maybe you could make it work here, too. Astrally, sometimes we get banged up, or things get hurt, and you can utilize sex magix to heal certain things. The most common thing I use sex magix for (in regards to healing) is for repairing a bond between two people, though it could be used for other ailments as well (such as removing energetic blockages or healing a specific injury).
The purpose of this method is to drive energy into a wound or a spot that needs healing. Considering that wounded folks can’t usually move around a lot- this might not be the most practical application for certain types of healing. However, the healing of bonds and connections between people don’t usually have such physical limitations.
In order for sex to heal, you’ve got to be comfortable with your partner- that is probably the most important thing I can emphasize for this. Especially if you’re wanting to heal bonds or threads. In order for the energy to do what it needs to do, you have to be okay enough with your partner to not keep a lot of walls up- otherwise, the energy isn’t going to get to where it needs to be.
The basic layout for healing through sex is pretty simple- I utilize the application of hands to a location in order to pass the energy that is being raised into the person. If you’re healing bonds or threads, this normally involves both parties touching one another around the chest area (where a lot of bonds, threads and cores are held). If you’re healing a particular wound, I would advise the hands to be placed on or around the wound so that it can be channeled into the injury. The hands don’t necessarily need to be touching the whole time- but I’ve found that, like with most of these methods, the energy is most potent around and leading up to the orgasm- so I’d recommend being in contact during those times the most and as you go at it, to focus on pushing the energy into the person or wound.
As stated above, you could make this more potent with sigils on your hands, or with unlocking certain energy points within your body (if you know how to).
Where from here?
Hopefully this guide helps you to get some ideas flowing for how you can utilize sex magix in your practice. As always, if you’ve got any questions or need any assistance, feel free to ask in the comments below. Don’t be afraid to try new things and experiment to find out what works best for you!
To see more topics and discussion about sex magix, take a look at the “sex magick” tag on my Tumblr.