Spirit Spouses: Something Old is New Again

17 Sep

I’ve noticed over the past year or so that god-spousing is becoming a more prominent thing in our community. For those who have never heard of this concept, the idea behind it is that a human person gets married (or some other similar ceremony) to a deity. The marriage ceremony can vary person to person and deity to deity – some have a large ceremony, others don’t. What this relationship can entail is going to vary from person to person as it would with any mortal marriage – some of the marriages are more romantic, some involve sex and some don’t, some are all astral based, and others are not – it’s all very “your mileage may vary”. And of course when anything “new” comes into the community, there are people in the community who dislike that thing, and god-spousing is no exception. Many think that this is totally stupid and often blames the resurgence (because it is a resurgence, this is not new) on things like Hiddleson or Tumblr. Despite that, the god-spouse community is starting to make some headway and gain some traction in the community at large, and I am happy to see that it’s starting to become more accepted.

There is another aspect to the god-spousing community that almost never gets talked about: spirit-spousing.

Spirit-spousing is a whole lot like god-spousing: a mortal person gets married to a spirit or other non-physical entity that isn’t identified as a deity. Just like god-spousing and mortal spouses, the nature of the relationship can vary, and the method of marriage can also vary. There are certainly a lot of different methods that can be done with spirit-spousing, and each culture that engaged in such things had their own way of doing things. However, despite there being a history of spirit-spousing, spirit-spouses almost never get any mention in posts, group discussions or in the community at large.

Because there is so very little on spirit-spousing, I wanted to spend some time talking about some of the historical things I’ve found on spirit-spousing and god-spousing as well as some of my own experiences.

History Repeats Itself

Although a lot of people seem to believe that marrying a non-physical entity (deity or otherwise) is new, it’s really not. There are plenty of examples that prove that this has been going on for a hot minute (see the relevant posts at the bottom for more information). I saw the first mention of spirit-spousing while reading The Catalpa Bow. The Catalpa Bow talks about spirit worker practices in Japan, and it turns out that there is a rather rich history of spirits engaging humans in all sorts of things- from sexual encounters, to tormenting people, to marriage.

Yep. Marriage.

There are a few common scenarios that Blacker lists in her book:

The first two groups of tales […] are those known as shinkontan or divine marriage tales. These tell of a marriage between a human being and a god. In one group a human girl is visited by an unknown deity, who on investigation is discovered to be a snake. In the other group the goddess of the sea leaves her watery home to marry a human man, only to return to it in her true form of a snake when the man has violated a taboo.19
Both these types of tale are found associated with certain shrines, usually purporting to account for the semi-divine ancestry of the priestly family in whose hereditary charge they lie. The Miwa and Kamo shrines are the most celebrated examples, the Miwa shrine in particular having given its name to two sub-types of divine marriage legend, broadly known as hebi-no-mukoiri, or snake bridegroom. (pg. 93)

Blacker goes on to state that it’s possible that many of these marriages mirror rites of passage and rituals that spirit workers (which she refers to as shamans in this book) must go through in order to obtain their skills:

In both these types of divine marriage legend there can be discerned the vestige of an ancient shamanistic cult in which a woman is chosen to serve a water-serpent god. In the odamaki stories we see a girl seized and forced to act not only as the mouthpiece of a god, but also as his bride. She is thus ‘possessed’ in a double sense, both spiritually by an oracle and sexually by a lover.
We are at once reminded of the similarly sexual relationship which obtains in many Siberian tribes between the shaman and his tutelary deity. Here, however, the sexes are usually reversed and it is a male shaman who finds himself visited by a goddess. Among the Goldi on the Amur river, Sternberg quotes a shaman as saying that his tutelary goddess, a beautiful woman who taught him the secrets which enabled him to shamanise, was at the same time the wife with whom he slept. When he shamanised he was possessed by this goddess, as his body might be permeated by smoke or vapour, and it was she who spoke through his mouth and drank the offerings of pig’s blood. The Yakut shaman was also visited when asleep by a female spirit, and the Teleut shaman likewise had a celestial wife whom he visited in her abode in the seventh heaven.27
The odamaki stories suggest that a similar relationship, with the sexes reversed, was common between the early miko and her guardian snake. (pg. 96)

While Blacker uses god and deity to describe a lot of the marriages going on in these stories, the truth is that the Japanese word Kami is very difficult to translate into English. We often consider it to instantly mean “deity” or “god”, but Kami can come in all sorts of sizes- some of which are nothing more than regional spirits or entities. So when reading these excerpts, I would advise anyone to keep a relatively loose definition of what the word god or deity could entail.

And of course, at the end of the day, it shows that there is some historical context and history of marriages and unions occurring between the Seen and Unseen.

Communication: Like Talking to a Brick Wall

Communicating with the Unseen is a notorious pain. It can be challenging to render feelings and ideas and “woo” into something that is actually coherent. And while it can be challenging to figure out how to communicate with a god, I’ve found it to be even harder to communicate with spirits. With gods you’ve got at least some sort of resource material to pull from. There are books and websites dedicated to discussing various historical and modern information about gods and deities from across the globe, and if someone shows up looking like some particular culture from Earth, it becomes much easier to figure out who exactly is pestering you. However, there is likely no website with information on Jim the tree spirit that lives in your back yard or Sally the traveler from some non-physical plane we’ve never heard of. It’s this very same problem that makes identifying netjeri and other Duat critters difficult for Kemetics- there just isn’t any widely available information out there. You’re pretty much on your own for figuring out who or what this entity is, where it came from, and what to do with it.

I still suggest approaching non-deity communication the same way you might approach deity communication. Work on figuring out a system that works best for you. For some this may be a divination system, for others it might be better through feelings or sensations. It really just depends. If you’ve got a spirit showing up on your doorstep, I recommend feeding them regularly. You may be the only person who notices they’re alive, and so they may need more energy in order to communicate with you better. You can nourish a non-deity through a lot of the same methods that you would a deity- food offerings, energy offerings (dancing, music making, sex), having shrines or other things in your house that the entity can attach to and alight from, etc. I would urge anyone who is delving into spirit communication to let the spirit know that there could be hang ups, and to be patient. Remember that communication can be just as frustrating for the spirit/entity as it is for you.

Expectations Can Make an Ass Out of You and Me

This can be further complicated by the fact that sometimes the spirit you’re working with isn’t even from some sort of earthly plane. Most of my menz have not ever lived on earth, which means it’s even harder to figure out who they are or what they want.

On top of this, there are plenty of cultures who have taboos and rules for their spirit-spousing. Some spirits are against certain things, certain spirits might expect certain things from their spouse or have certain expectations for the nature of the relationship such as food and dietary restrictions or limitations on who you can associate with or even your daily schedule. Clashing of eras and cultures can make the relationship building process even more difficult and can cause all sorts of bumps and hiccups on your path.

This has occurred for me a few times. I had a past history with a few of my menz, and they had expectations that I had to promptly crush. One believed he could come in and convert me into being strictly monogamous with him – which I told him would not happen. I’ve also gotten to experience personality conflicts between a few of my menz that threw some relationships to a grinding halt for a while, as well as differing views on how the household should be run (which we still have some issues with).

The best advice I can give to anyone who might find themselves looking at a spirit who wants to be more than friends is to take it slow. And don’t be afraid to establish your boundaries and limitations with this entity. I have a strict rule for anyone (spirit, deity, or physical human) that is interested in dating me or being romantically involved with me- we do it my way, or not at all. That doesn’t mean that I won’t compromise on things, but there are certain caveats in the relationship that will never ever change. And anyone who is interested in being with me needs to respect those rules.

Once you’ve created ground rules for yourself, stick to them. However, be prepared for certain entities to push back and try to convince you to change your rules. And, of course, be prepared to potentially send this entity or spirit packing if they refuse to take your needs seriously.

But how did you know?

One of the biggest questions I’ve been asked throughout the years of talking about spirit-spousing is “how did you know that they wanted to be in that kind of relationship with you?” The short answer is- they had to spell it out for me, usually. I am incredibly dense and daft when it comes to emotions, and I default to “everyone is friends!” mindset (much to my detriment). For pretty much every single relationship I’m involved in (or have ever been involved in), it has usually taken the other person, entity, spirit or deity to tell me “hey, I want to be more than just friends”. The only exception to this rule has been with the menz I refer to as K-Pop, who more or less made it very very clear from day one that he and I were “gonna be a thing” no matter what.


And that can and does happen- sometimes an entity shows up and refuses to take no for an answer. And it can be really challenging to figure out how to handle that. While he and I tangoed around this complete mess of feelings and emotional baggage, we pretty much spent 3 months making each other’s lives miserable. He made sure to antagonize anyone I was close to. We spent hours exchanging verbal barbs with one another while we completed tasks on the astral. We pretty much hated one another for quite a while.

It only began to progress to something better once he decided I was more important than whatever expectations he had brought to the table. It was a perfect example of having to stick to your guns. But it was a very big challenge to get to that point.

Almost none of my relationships have super romantic or amazing beginnings, and that is largely why I don’t discuss them. However, if you find that an entity (or a deity) shows up and develops a relationship with you- and then out of the blue one day decides that they want to be more than that with you- don’t feel too shocked. I certainly missed a lot of really obvious call signs with a lot of the people, spirits and entities that I have laid with. Again, communication isn’t always clear, and sometimes what is obvious to one person isn’t obvious to another.

Obviously, this is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to being married (or similar) with non-physical entities. I’ve tried to cover some of the basics of being married to spirits as well as covering some historical information on the practice. If there are any other topics anyone would like to delve into in the future regarding spirit-spousing, hit me up in the comments section!

Relevant Posts:


Posted by on September 17, 2014 in Astral, Crack, Hypnosis & Inner Work, Rambles


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33 responses to “Spirit Spouses: Something Old is New Again

  1. ibgreenie3

    September 17, 2014 at 8:50 pm

    Excellent advice and sage wisdom.

  2. Alyx

    September 18, 2014 at 5:24 am

    I hope you do not think of me as an idiot for asking this, but would the gods/spirits attempt to form that type of relationship with you if you are completely in love with another /living/ person? Like, okay. I am married, would a god/spirit still attempt to ‘marry’ me? Would that be wrong? I’m really really confused, I’m so sorry for bothering you, eh.. ^-^;..

    • von186

      September 18, 2014 at 9:49 am

      They could, yeah. I was already in a relationship with someone here in the physical when the astral people started showing up. And I was already in a relationship with one physical and one non-physical entity when K-Pop was like “you and me are gonna be a thing”. So yeah, it can happen. Some people are forced to not have physical partners, others manage to have partners on both sides. It just depends on the situation.

      • Alyx

        September 18, 2014 at 9:51 am

        Aah, thank you for responding and telling me this. I appreciate it.

  3. autumnsilvermoon

    September 19, 2014 at 7:55 pm

    I could scream at Set right now. Sure I wasn’t happy at my job, but I needed the money. I didn’t want to loose it! Dn it Set I know you’re help me in some way. But if I can’t talk to you or hear you, what good does your help do me!?!?!?

    • autumnsilvermoon

      September 20, 2014 at 12:09 pm

      Sorry about the rant. I had a really bad day yesterday as you can tell and I really wanted to talk to someone who had/has been through something similar. Set did help me. I’m no longer working in a place that I hate and I’m now stress free. The downside is that I now have mooch off of my parents again. But for some strange reason my parents are happy and sad about the fact that I lost my job. It’s weird. Anyway sorry for ranting and rambling Devo. I’ll try to not do it again.

      • von186

        September 22, 2014 at 2:36 pm

        No worries, it’s no big deal. Unfortunately, bad stuff can happen in life and sometimes we get shoved backwards before we can move forward again. I’ve had to bite the bullet and move back in with my parents in the past, and it took a heavy toll on my health. However, in the end, things did pan out (eventually) and I was able to get back up on my feet again. Sometimes the gods can only do so much for us, for better or worse. Best I can recommend is to hang in there as best as you can, and keep trying to move forward.

      • autumnsilvermoon

        September 22, 2014 at 6:29 pm

        Thanks Devo. I’m looking for a new job now, but I need to write my resume first.

  4. SulphurBlue

    October 1, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    Reblogged this on O, Mourning Star. . ..

  5. SulphurBlue

    October 1, 2014 at 6:46 pm

    Bless you for this.

  6. Mariah

    January 4, 2016 at 11:43 am

    I need your help. I have no idea what I am doing or how to effectively communicate. I’ve been dealing with…entity..? for nearly 8/9 years now. I have this creepy emotional attachment to it and it won’t communicate with me but it visits me every few nights…I mean… I feel it.. I am tempted to call him an incubus … he has given me the rare nightmare or two over the years but I am in no way afraid of him.. just completely enamored and wishing I could get through to him and talk to him.. but you can’t force someone to love you….or even talk to you… 😦 It is killing me inside and I have spent many nights crying over this.. Please help me…

    • von186

      January 7, 2016 at 12:12 pm

      I would ask what you’ve attempted to do in order to communicate with teh entity? Sometimes entities will try and talk with us, but we don’t realize that that is what they’re doing.

      Some things I might suggest (esp since you don’t fear this entity). Create a space for the entity to reside in. Most people do this by creating a shrine. Placing items that you relate to the entity, or that the entity likes onto the shrine. Perhaps an image of them, if you know what they look like. Leaving libations or food offerings there can be helpful, esp if they don’t have a lot of energy to manifest. Creating this space usually will give them a sort of “grounding spot” to manifest, and can help with communication with them. You can also leave communicating devices there, or leave letters to them there, etc. to see if that helps to bridge the gap.

      I’d also recommend looking into other ways of communication. You could try something like a divination deck (whether that’s tarot, oracle, playing cards- whatever) and see if they can communicate that way. You could also try pendulums or dousing rods- though I’ve found that these are easily biased by the user, so be careful. You could also verbally ask the entity to communicate with you, or let you know how to communicate with them. Sometimes you can ask for a dream, and it’ll happen. I personally find that sometimes I need to break down my barriers before I can communicate well with the Unseen. I usually do this through dancing.

      Another possibility might be to talk to someone who does divination. Ask them if they can find a clear answer as to whether the entity is purposefully avoiding speaking with you, or if there is something else at play (they can’t speak, someone is preventing them from speaking, they’ve tried and failed- any of these). This is best done with a diviner that doesn’t know a whole lot about your situation (called a blind reading, usually), so that way no bias gets injected into the reading.

      And no worries about the comment not showing up thing. WP makes me approve comments from new commenters :>

      Let me know if this makes sense or if I need to clarify anything. Good luck! I know it can be difficult and frustrating, but usually it’s just a matter of figuring out the right combination so that the communication can happen :3

      • ramayalynn

        January 7, 2016 at 5:17 pm

        Hi & thank you for answering! I just made a WordPress the other day after finding your site so now I do understand how the comments sections works. Sorry for sounding like such an idiot. 🙂

        Let me give you a little bit of a background so you can better understand my/our situation….
        I have always been interested in the paranormal and darker topics, starting from a young child. There wasn’t necessarily any prompting of this nor was their a history of any sort of abuse. Around eleven years old was when I started to feel the presence of the ‘unseen’. I just ‘knew’ that there was a male entity/being around me at certain but not specific times. It was around August/September of that year when things became more prominent. I threw away a ‘mood’ bracelet that I had only to later find it on top of my nightstand. A man that resembled what I perceived to be him, held eye contact with me for what seemed like an eternity while I was in the car with my grandfather coming home from a store. It wasn’t a random encounter. I ‘knew’..I was and still am certain that it was him. One afternoon, when I was sitting at my desk, I turned my head and saw his face for maybe a second. Then it escalated and eventually became disturbing. I ‘awoke’ one night and when I came back from the bathroom, I saw him sitting on the end of my bed smiling at me…it was more like an intimidating smirk that a murderer would mock you with before killing you. The even stranger part, he was just a black ‘shadow person’, like just the shape of a person. How could I have known he was looking at me that way when he had no face. I wasn’t afraid so I crawled back into my bed and immediately fell asleep again. It all happened so quickly and felt like a dream. It was so weird that I remember it to this day, in detail. Shortly after that, things turned sexual in nature, which prompted me to label him as an Incubus, due to Google searches. It turned from once every few nights to every single night. I could never hear or see him but I knew he was there and felt him. An emotional attachment developed, out of nowhere. I fell in love, madly in love, with him. It made no sense whatsoever since nothing triggered it. It wasn’t due to my young age or immaturity. I felt like we were bound to each other, so to speak. All of my school and celebrity crushes soon became none existent and I became enamored with him. Then his nightly visits would stop, become sporadic, or normal again. It broke my heart and I spent many days and nights crying over him. I went into such a deep depression. It seemed like he didn’t care but then again, how would I know, he never spoke to me.


        Shortly after sixth grade started, my grandmother and I moved into a different apartment. I thought that maybe he would stop visiting me completely but it turns out that he followed me wherever I went. It started getting even more intense. I woke up during one of the first nights in our new apartment, for only a few seconds, to him turning me over on my other side and.. you know.. I was still under or around twelve years old so this was pretty traumatizing to me. As I got older, the feelings grew but he still persisted on random to nonexistent visits. It felt like he was playing a sick game. Then dreams…nightmares started.. I’d have nightmares of him but sometimes he’d look like a different man..I still felt only his presence though. He would mutilate me, scare me, tease me, and once he chased me with a knife. In my early teens (13/14) I started to try to impress him and dressed up thinking that maybe he’d like me better this way..he still never showed up on those if on purpose. I eventually got into Satanism for a short period of time. That didn’t affect anything. I went back and forth from Satanism to nothing..not atheism but more like me just not actively participating.

        (KEEP READING)

        We had a house fire and had to move to a different apartment when I was around fifteen years old. He followed me. The nightmares stopped but my love for him didn’t. I took a more active role and started to attempt communication. I have a pendulum but never used it because it isn’t really reliable. I’m diabetic now and my hand isn’t steady. I had a Ouija board but was scared out of trying it. I wrote a note for him and either taped it to my wall or folded it and put it under my pillow. I contacted several mediums/psychics/etc., some of which were personal friends. Every single person that I have consulted about him has been able to sense him and see him but he refuses to talk to them and it seems to irritate him. I don’t think he likes me airing out our personal business. On two separate occasions, I have awoken to his scratches on my thigh. It was definitely him. I got second and third opinions. The scratches were described to me as, ‘not to hurt me but to get my attention’. I have paid money for phony online psychics/mediums as well. I feel like I have no one to turn to. I don’t know what he looks like indefinitely. I don’t know his name or what he wants. I try to speak with him telepathically..I am a little shy about speaking out loud..especially if there is a chance of him not hearing. I have cried..probably in front of him. I don’t know what to do or say. I am willing to try anything, at any cost. I have spent nearly nine years of my life with him and don’t plan on ever giving up. Right now I am actively beginning to study meditation and practice in an attempt to open myself up more, if that makes sense.

        Side note, aside from nightmares, he has never scared me or been violent with me. I have never felt threatened by him. I love him more than I love myself. There must be an explanation for my feelings and his staying around me. I need communication. I have had human relationships and find myself comparing them to him every time..wishing they were him instead.. It is very frustrating and disheartening. I never see myself being happy without him reciprocating the feeling that I have for him. I know that our sexual experiences were very real because they were identical to the ones I eventually experienced with humans.. I mean, the human experiences sucked but you know what I mean by identical.

        Sorry for all of the info. and going on and on but I need help. I have done so much research on these types of phenomenon and other topics of the sort yet I come up empty handed. I don’t know if I see him speaking with anyone but me… I just need to find out how, which seems impossible. Any help or input is much appreciated. I would love to make an altar but how and of what are the big questions that I will need to get answers to.

        Much love, gratefulness, and anxiety,

        Mariah 🙂

      • von186

        January 7, 2016 at 6:15 pm

        Yeah, I can see why that could be trying. Esp given how long its been going on. It makes me wonder why they’ve been silent as long as they have, and it makes me wonder if they know that you can see them or not. Speaking for myself, I’d probably say that I’ve had entities hovering around me for as long as I’ve been alive, but I wasn’t keenly aware of them until much later in life, and I wasn’t able to really communicate with them worth a damn until I was in my 20’s- and I think that they realized that, and so they spent most of my lifetime being creepers that stayed around me, but didn’t really attempt to interact with me because they figured I wouldn’t know it even if they tried. As much as it sucks, it’s possible that it could be a while before you develop the skills for communication. I’m not sure what creates the ability to communicate per se, but I know that I could try as much as I wanted in my college years, and nothing panned out. It’s as if something else had to happen in order to be able to break through to communicate (and I’m still not sure what exactly changed to allow me to, tbh).

        Some things I can recommend is flipping through my astral/unseen faq, which has links and ideas for communication and working in the unseen: You also may find the deity communication section useful from the kemetic faq:

        While you’re likely not dealing with a deity (though it’s technically possible), there can be a lot of overlap btwn spirits an deities, so the methods that work for one will often cross over for the other. Same goes for creating a space for them to reside, though I’m not sure if that’s something your entity particularly needs, given that it’s followed you around as much as it has. Knowing what I do know about spirits, it’s possible it’s got a place it resides at in the Unseen, and possibly an entire life over there- which could account for why its visitation is sporadic from time to time. So it’s possible it doesn’t need a whole lot from you to manifest in this plane of existence. But even so, it might be worth finding something that the spirit has an attachment to and keeping it around. Many times when I’m having problems communicating or hearing my spirit peeps, I’ll hold onto something that they’ve got attachment to (stones, jewelry, statues… whatever) and it creates a stronger connection for us to communicate through. So finding something that your entity prefers or likes may help in that regard. Possibly even asking the entity to give you an idea of what it likes may help. For all you know, it’s attached itself to your stuff, and that’s how it’s managed to follow you for so many years. Hell if you still have that bracelet, that may be a good place to start. Try holding it in your hand and clearing your mind, or thinking of the entity. Or wearing it while asleep and see what happens.

        If you haven’t tried the cards, I’d suggest that because they’re more reliable than a pendulum. If you wanted someone to do a reading for you, there are quite a few people over on tumblr that could probably assist. Much like you, i’ve had mixed results with getting divination done. So I wouldn’t use it as a completely definitive way of discernment, but it could be one more thing to consider among everything that has happened. I’d say to ask for dreams, but if you’re getting nightmares, maybe that’s not the best method?

        It’s hard to say what type of spirit you’re working with, though. There are so many possibilities to it all, and many spirit types simply aren’t documented in our plane or era. It’s possible you two are bonded together or bound together somehow. If you are, it’s likely that you have interacted with this entity before this lifetime, or beyond the physical life that you have here. Too bad it would probably take learning how to astral travel in order to find out more about that. And that opens up a whole different can of worms. Bonds can be both beneficial and a bane. It opens you up to a lot of things, both good and bad. Pending on the situation the entity lives in or that you have had in the past, could influence why they act as they do now. but nothing is for certain until you can find some means of getting answers.

        I could suggest other more, uh, forceful ways to try and get the entity to talk, but I don’t know that I’d use them unless everything else had failed first. So this is probably still where I’d start, and then work on more extreme or pushy methods once the more amicable ones are ruled out. Not sure how much of this helps, but…. that’s what comes to mind first?

      • ramayalynn

        January 7, 2016 at 6:33 pm

        Thanks again for replying & the links. 🙂

        I don’t have that bracelet anymore. I threw it away outside after that happened.
        I can’t think of anything I currently own that I have kept with me over the years.

        I will check out the links.
        It’s funny because until I started reading about meditation a few days ago, I felt the need to astral travel, as I have many times. I was never successful and have a gut feeling that I’m just not allowed to. I was literally just typing “and/or able to” but I honestly feel like I am not allowed to. I am probably not prepared for it. I feel like I am being protected from it because it isn’t safe for me to do.

        I don’t mean to be too much of a pest but would you happen to have the names of those people on Tumblr who may be able to assist me? Also, in the event that I do not successfully communicate in the next few years, what are those other more forceful ways? I wouldn’t use them unless it was absolutely necessary or even at all, depending on what they are.

        I’d ask him what he likes but I am afraid that I’d get an answer from myself or none at all.

        I am not sure how to use divination cards.

      • von186

        January 9, 2016 at 11:14 am

        Well if you feel like you’re being blocked, that could explain why there is limited communication as well.
        As for divination, I don’t have any names off hand. I’d probably post into the tags or search around in the tags to see who I liked best. A lot of people do offer services, etc. and you can email them for more information.
        Forceful ways would typically include telling him that you’re going to kick him out if he doesn’t comply. Course, that only works if you’re actually good at warding. Or you could get someone else to help you either force him out or force him to talk. Usually you’d awnt someone who is powerful, like a deity or something similar.
        It’s still work asking, I think. Even if there is no answer, can’t hurt to try.
        The divination cards will depend. Some people use spreads, some people just pull cards out to see what comes out, and see if they can string together information based off of the cards meaning. I don’t typically work through cards, so it’s not my specialty.

        As for jealousy, it’s worth trying to explore that and work on it. Because it’s entirely possible that he’s got family over there, or more than one person he loves. I’ve found that a lot of spirits are not monogamous. So it might be worth trying to work on that now before you go further down the rabbit hole. Just a suggestion.

      • ramayalynn

        January 9, 2016 at 4:23 pm

        Thanks. I will check it out and see who I can find to help me.
        If it isn’t monogamous, that would be a deal breaker. I can’t share him.

  7. ramayalynn

    January 7, 2016 at 6:35 pm

    My initial thoughts when you said that he may have another life is, “I hope he doesn’t have a wife or girlfriend.”

    Can you tell how terrible this is and how jealous I can get with him? It makes me feel like a psycho.. Ugh..

  8. ramayalynn

    January 7, 2016 at 6:59 pm

    I don’t think that I can ever heal or be truly happy if I don’t connect with him. I want to be his forever. ❤

  9. ramayalynn

    January 9, 2016 at 4:25 pm

    What do you mean by, “post into the tags”? I know what tags are, on Tumblr.

  10. moonfire2012

    May 30, 2016 at 7:49 pm

    I and a close friend have had similar experiences. I’d like to talk more if you’re up to it.

    • Mariah Angeli

      May 30, 2016 at 10:37 pm

      With me? Sure. 🙂
      It’s funny that you just commented because I recently got a boyfriend and this entity has suddenly reappeared and is causing me nightmares.

      • moonfire2012

        June 7, 2016 at 3:32 pm

        I’d be doing some serious protection spells and possibly be calling in higher help from a Deity.

      • moonfire2012

        September 18, 2017 at 9:51 pm

        Mariah, so sorry I didn’t answer this sooner! I didn’t check it till just today. Been having my own drama. My email is if you want to write me. We’d have a lot to talk about! I’m godspoused to Loki and currently frustrated with him about something. I’ll explain when you write. I also had a spirit lover before him that may or may not have been an alien from the 80s that went on from when I was 16 till 22 when I broke up with him because of increasing abuse and other reasons. I met Loki when I was in my early 30s and he seems to really love me and even started coming on to me in 2012-2013 but would never go all the way with me. I’m still waiting for that to happen. There’s more to it but I don’t want to discuss all that here though. But we’ve been through similar experiences and I can totally relate to your feelings. Your spirit seems demonic though. He scratched you, marking you like a territory, chased you around with a knife in a dream, he seems like the jealous possessive type like the one my friend Mary is with. He threatened to blow up her house when she married a human man! She ended up divorcing him a few months later anyway. He was a middle eastern man using her to get a green card, he also knew she had a powerful spirit lover and was scared of him. I met him and was scared of him too, though later he showed a more agreeable, but still intimiating, energy. He is so strong he causes anxiety attacks so I’m thinking he has to be a demon. No good spirit would cause bad feelings. I’ll tell you more about that later too. I have so many experienes and stories, lol.

  11. Fate

    October 2, 2016 at 5:27 am

    Could deities be messing with personal relationships? For example, romantic relationships.

    • DevoTTR

      October 3, 2016 at 4:14 pm

      Deities can mess with relationships in order to try and achieve a goal, yes.

  12. Alisha

    September 25, 2017 at 5:32 pm


    I don’t know if you’ll read my post but, I became very ill 8 months ago and as it got worse, I decided to go see a Shaman. The shaman then told me that there was a spirit or demon from the other side that wants to marry me. He is trying to make me die so he can take me as his wife. I became very afraid and asked what I can do to make it release me. It said that it wanted me to be its wife no matter what. So anyway, 8 months later, I began to feel better but it still makes me feel ill daily but not as bad as in the beginning. I went to see the Shaman again and he said that this spirit wants me still to be its wife. The shaman told it that its not my time to go yet and that it would have to be patient and wait until I live my life first. I always feel that spirit put its heartbeat around my body daily and the heartbeat always says “love.” I saw it once and it was very beautiful looking, glowing eyes and just very beautiful. But the shaman told me it is like a person but with horns. Strangely, I talk to it and have told it to let me go, but it won’t. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to feel sick anymore. Any advice?

    • DevoTTR

      December 6, 2017 at 9:31 am

      This is hard to respond to because I don’t know enough details. I’d argue that you’d do well to cross-check against the ‘shaman’ that you’ve been going to. There are a lot of spirit workers out there who aren’t all they’re cracked up to be, and even well-meaning, seasoned spirit workers can have conflicting ideas about a given situation. So it’s always best to get more than one answer on something this complicated.
      I’d also argue that you need to be cross-checking this with a medical professional. A lot of mundane issues can come across or become intertwined with metaphysical issues, and attacking any sort of situation from both ends will often render the best results. Making sure that there aren’t medical issues complicating matters is imperative.
      From there, I’d look into just communicating with the spirit directly. Less of telling it to go away, and just… learning about who it is. Seeing if that method helps to relieve some symptoms, and may help the two of you reach a compromise you’d not get to otherwise… idk if any of that helps, though. It sounds complicated, and without a lot of details, it can be hard to offer advice.

  13. Karla

    April 30, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    Thanks for this blog post, it has cleared up a bunch of Questions I had before about spirit lovers. More specifically God lovers. I happen to be astrally married to the Sun God Apollo(Greek), and honestly say it is very rewarding and fun. He’s very sexually active, but more romantically loving. I have been known to enter relationships with other spirits or other humans but those relationships ended far too quickly. Apollo has however made it clear that he wants to be exclusive, and the only God/spirit to be my lover, hence the marriage. He’s very protective, and somewhat possessive, but nothing out of the ordinary. I’m very happy with him, and communication is easy due to my clairaudience and clairvoyance. Anyway thnx for reading :3

  14. Aura

    March 12, 2019 at 4:15 pm

    Does anyone know anything about raising spirit children with a spirit spouse? If you do, please email me. ( Blessed be.


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