Flirting With Destruction

02 Sep

aka: Devo’s Guide to Working with Set and Other “Hard-nosed” Netjeru

Mandatory Disclaimer: As with everything, this guide is exactly that- a guide. Gods (especially trickster and chaos gods) can change rules at the drop of a hat, and my interactions with Set might not match your interactions with Set. This guide contains my own personal thoughts and interactions with this deity as well as interactions I have witnessed other followers experience over the years. This guide is merely meant to be a general overview for those who are new to working with Set.


Nothing gets people talking like a trickster god. And one of the most discussed deities in the Kemetic pantheon could easily be Set. Is he evil? Is he mean? Will he ruin your life? Does he hate Osiris? Does Osiris hate him? If you worship him, does that instantly make you evil too? Set has called me- do I get excited, or run for the hills? He is one of the most misunderstood netjeru there is- to the point that you can gauge a lot about any book on Egypt by seeing how the author views Set (in my opinion), and even a fair amount of Kemetics, while understanding that he is no Satan, still fear him on some level.

And one of the largest things I have seen through the years is:


And then panic ensues.

Usually, when I see Set step into people’s lives, he usually is there to help you grow, to help you move forward and to help you shed unnecessary things. If he only plans on staying in your life for a bit, you might only have to live through the destruction of your life once. If he is going to stick around forever, I highly recommend you learn to regularly purge un-needed things in your life. In my experience, working under him (for lack of a better term- I don’t like using ‘worship’) requires you to alter your perspective on life and the way you approach things. For someone who is only intending to work with Set for a spell, I believe you can learn a lot about how to approach him by examining how long-term followers experience him and handle his quirks.

So what are some things that are good to know with Set? What traits should you expect to cultivate?

1. Light a fire under your ass.

In my experience, Set likes go getters. That doesn’t necessarily mean he wants you to burn out, but he wants you to be actively moving forward in you life by the means necessary. So, for example, if you’re coming to him about getting a job, he would expect you to be actively pursuing getting another job- updating your resume, applying to whatever you can, honing your interview skills, networking, etc. If you’re coming to him about getting more money, he’d expect you to be saving where you can, budgeting better, and trimming excess fat. Those sorts of things. You can’t expect to ask Set for help, and then do nothing. If you ask him for help, or find that he is coming in your direction, you better prepare to start working quickly to make things better. As I have said to many others- if the destruction and change that you need requires you to jump off a cliff- jump off of it. Don’t wait for him to throw you off.

2. Learn to be patient and more laid back.

Ironically, we all think of chaos as being uptight. However, when you’re working with a deity that is chaotic, you’ll find that you need to learn to take a chill pill, or have your head explode from frustration. Many times, Set works in his own, secretive ways. He has methods, and sometimes they don’t make a whole lot of sense. There are also times when he’ll disappear at random and not reappear for quite a while. It’s chaos, it doesn’t always make sense or appear to, at least. One of the best things I’ve learned from this is to just chill out. Oh, Set hasn’t been around for a month or two? Well I guess he’ll wander back around when he needs me. So long as you’re actively performing number 1, you should be okay. The randomness of his actions might be maddening at first- but you learn to get used to it.

3. Remember the importance of a good attitude.

This is especially true if you asked for his help. Don’t cry to him for help, then complain about his methods. During some of my lower points, I’ve wailed to him about how I was breaking under the pressure, or how I was angry that he was effectively cutting me off at the knees (in my mind). This only garnered stares or responses of “GTFO”. Having a go-getter attitude really does go a long ways with him. And sometimes (in me experience) he won’t even bother to help you start moving forward until you’ve shown that you have the courage to jump off the cliff and accept his help- which also means accepting his methods of help. Even though it might seem like hell on earth while in the middle of the process, trust in it. Know that you are getting stronger, and that in the end, it is worth it.

4. Keep on keepin’ on.

Part of having a good attitude is to keep on moving forward. Usually, Set’s lessons are hard. They will push you to your limits- but that’s part of the point. Sometimes we have to break before we can ‘level up’ as it were. Once you’ve been thrown off the cliff, you might as well keep going until you hit the bottom or learn to fly. There is no point re-contemplating once you are half way down. Showing him and yourself respect by continuously moving forward (or trying to) is one of the greatest offerings you can give him (in my opinion). Having the discipline and trust to see things through to the end is important. Even if you have a few breakdowns and tantrums along the way- so long as you pick yourself back up and keep putting one foot in front of the other, that’s what matters at the end of the day.

Even though Set can appear to be a hardass, do keep in mind that there is more to him than that. On the by and large, I would advise against whining, crying, and throwing your hands up in a fit of “I give up!” However, it does happen to the best of us. There have been times where I have absolutely broken down in shrine. When I’ve screamed at him for the position I was put into. And never in any of those moments did he lash out at me (even if he looked less than pleased). There have even been times where he seemed to feel bad for the situation I was in. He can be nice, he can be caring. However, he seems to be very particular about when and where those feelings will be shown. That’s not to say he doesn’t feel these things all the time- it’s just that he doesn’t always show it. Sometimes we need someone to be stern and somewhat cold to help us grow. I think it is the harder exterior that scares many people away- because they don’t understand that there is more to him than that. If you are going to work with Set long term, it is helpful to understand this, and to try to understand the nature of the jobs he tends to take on. To understand his methods, for there is a rhyme and reason to what he does (usually). I also think it’s important that Set appears to have a better understanding of what we can handle. Many times I thought I was at the end of my rope- only to find out I still had more left in me. It was only when I was truly at my limit did he step in to make larger changes.

All in all, if we give Set the chance to work with our lives and help facilitate changes within ourselves, there is the potential to be so much more than we currently are. I know it’s scary for many people to hear that Set is looking in their direction, but he really does have valuable lessons for us that we should try to embrace and bring manifest into our lives. So the next time you see Big Red heading your way, instead of heading for the hills, try meeting him halfway and see how working with chaos can bring good things into your life.


Posted by on September 2, 2012 in Kemeticism


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24 responses to “Flirting With Destruction

  1. Aubs Tea

    September 2, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    Sekhmet and Sutekh both are very similar.

    • von186

      September 2, 2012 at 1:54 pm

      I’m not surprised. She falls under ‘hardnosed’ probably. Aset can be this way, too.

      • Aubs Tea

        September 4, 2012 at 6:58 am

        This also makes me want to create one for Sekhmet…

  2. warboar

    September 2, 2012 at 2:23 pm

    Reblogged this on Shadows of the Sun.

  3. merytaset

    September 2, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    Sounds about right. I’m finding out Mut is turning out to be similar. The “hard-nosed” ones must love me or something.

    • von186

      September 2, 2012 at 2:31 pm

      ahahahaha. I know that feeling. Maybe it’s just something about people like you and me- our personality or something- that attracts them lol. Or maybe you get called by one hard-nosed deity. And then they tell all of their hard-nosed deity friends- and that’s how you get claimed by multiple hard-nosed deities lol.

      • merytaset

        September 2, 2012 at 5:07 pm

        I’m strongly suspecting the latter. Or maybe a combo of both. IDK But I got them(or They go me, depending on how you see it) and They’re not going anywhere.

    • Aubs Tea

      September 4, 2012 at 6:58 am

      Not to butt in, but is Mut one of your main goddesses? She’s showed up a few times and come to me in her mother aspect, but also with the intention of showing me the astral (scary). Aside from that, I’ve had little contact with her but would like to repair that. Thoughts or suggestions?

      • merytaset

        September 4, 2012 at 9:03 pm

        She recently has become one my main deities, taking a role previously held by Aset (like I said, the tough ones love me). She pretty much showed up boldly and surrounded by the color red and wearing red a few months ago, so She’s pretty new to me too. She does have Her motherly side but She’s turning into one tough mama!

  4. merytaset

    September 2, 2012 at 5:07 pm

    Reblogged this on kemeticwriter.

  5. jewelofaset

    September 3, 2012 at 12:23 am

    This is an excellent piece about honoring Set. I think Aset has some of these points too. Maybe not so much the chaotic part though. She’s tranformative, more than chaotic, if that makes any sense.

    • von186

      September 3, 2012 at 9:36 am

      I get that. I’ve worked briefly with Aset in the past. In a lot of ways, she and Set are a lot alike 🙂 I could totally see this post being applicable to her.

  6. thefirstdark

    September 3, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    Reblogged this on The Darkness in the Light.

  7. kallistaqbhwt

    September 20, 2012 at 9:38 am

    Yep, He can be very nice and very caring and He can give you a good kick in the butt to push you forward. Some of His methods can seem quite harsh, especially to those who aren’t very well acquainted with Him or used to Him and His ways, but He always ‘gets the job done’ 🙂 And He’s quite the fierce protector, I must say (in that respect I could venture to say He reminds me of Sekhmet at times)

  8. Satnetsekhem

    November 21, 2012 at 4:44 pm

    I…think Set might have come to visit me a few times, though after reading this I’m not really sure.

    There would be times when I would feel a presence, like there was something close to my leg, usually accompanied by a sudden mental image of whatever I was doing (usually sitting in class or taking a walk) with a set-animal lying or walking next to me on my left side. He/it doesn’t really do anything but “hang out” in that sense, and there have been a couple times when I would feel him/it after thinking about Set; other times he/it would just randomly appear out of nowhere. It’s always been the animal, not any humanoid form.

    Would this be considered normal for him, at least somewhat, or am I totally off the mark and it’s something else that’s visiting me?

    • von186

      November 21, 2012 at 5:21 pm

      I think it could be him. Just because he isn’t quiet with everyone doesn’t mean that he can’t be quiet 😛 It’s possible that he’s waiting for the right time to make a larger move. It’s common for a lot of people to have gods that sorta.. stick to the background for a while before they become more in the forefront. If you’re always curious, you could try reaching out to him. Lay out some offerings for him, say hello and all that- see if you get a response.

  9. HathaGirls Mediums

    April 18, 2013 at 9:13 am

    Recently I met Seth. In a dream, during our introduction, his name was spelt to me like so “SETH”. When I first met him I had a bone-crushing experience that I even felt upon waking up. It was as though my whole body was breaking and transforming to something new. Gosh, I hope I never feel anything like that!

    Since then Seth has appeared to me several times and gave me a list of ‘what must be done’. “NO EXCUSES” said Seth. He’s very direct and specific and doesn’t ‘beat around the bush’ so to speak. He showed me how to connect with him and said he represents RED. He’s here as one of our permanent guide and will be working with the Hatha Girls for specific purposes. Thanks Seth for making your presence known to us. We look forward to all that is to come.

    of the Hatha Girls

  10. G. B. Marian

    August 23, 2014 at 7:39 am

    This is one of the very best articles on this subject I’ve ever read – and as someone who’s walked with Big Red for 17 years now, I completely agree with all of it.

    • von186

      August 23, 2014 at 2:37 pm

      I’m glad you liked it :>

  11. G. B. Marian

    August 23, 2014 at 7:40 am

    Reblogged this on In The Desert Of Seth.


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